10 Red Flags In a Long Distance Relationship, Your Partner Is Sleeping With Someone Else
There are many warning signs that the person you’re dating may be cheating on you, but there are some red flags you can look out for to determine if your partner is sleeping with someone else, even when they are hundreds of miles away from you. Use these 10 red flags in a long distance relationship to help determine if your partner may be having an affair without you ever finding out about it.
1) They don’t show up to planned meetings
Nobody’s perfect. Things come up. But when you and your significant other both agree to meet at a certain time and place, it’s reasonable to expect that person to be there—unless something (or someone) gets in the way. A no-show doesn’t necessarily mean infidelity; there could be any number of perfectly valid reasons why they couldn’t make it (injury, emergency). Still, if it happens more than once or twice or three times. it might be worth looking into.
2) Repeatedly miss calls
When you live together you are always available, or at least you should be. If your partner has a habit of repeatedly missing calls from you but not responding to messages it’s time to talk about why. There could be an innocent explanation that’s easily fixed or something more sinister going on and there’s only one way to find out. Face-to-face communication is key when things get serious so don’t let these kinds of things slide until it’s too late.
3) Lie about their whereabouts
When you’re not around each other and you don’t know where your partner is, it’s easy to start imagining all sorts of things. You know where they are (or at least you think you do), but there’s something that doesn’t feel right about their story.
If something feels wrong—and you can’t put your finger on exactly what it is—it probably means that something is wrong. Trust your gut if it tells you to investigate further; if everything checks out and nothing seems awry, get rid of those doubts. But if these little nagging feelings won’t go away even after a week or two of dating someone new, listen to them! There could be big problems down the road.
4) Get jealous easily when you hang out with friends
If you find yourself getting jealous when your partner hangs out with friends or family members—or if you feel like they are spending too much time at work and not enough time with you—you may be exhibiting early signs of emotional infidelity. To prevent things from going south, talk to your significant other about how they feel when they hang out with friends and how important it is to them that you understand their need for independent activities.
Keep an open mind and don’t freak out if jealousy arises; instead, explore why it arises (jealousy can often be a symptom of underlying trust issues). Jealousy usually stems from insecurity; insecurities can result from feeling like you’re being taken for granted by your significant other.
5) If they get back late call them constantly
The easiest way to figure out what’s really going on when you’re far away from each other is by talking often. Just make sure that you aren’t being overly intrusive and don’t go overboard (or give them time to cover their tracks).
If you notice that they’re making excuses to get off of the phone or always giving vague answers when you ask how things are going, it may be time to talk about it face-to-face. For all couples, trust is an essential part of any healthy relationship; if your partner can’t share all parts of their life with you then there’s something wrong.
6) They don’t take pictures during their trips
If they’re constantly snapping photos of their friends and food but none of you together, it could be because they are spending time somewhere you aren’t. If he or she doesn’t have any pictures of you at all on their phone that just seems really weird. Do some investigating and don’t be afraid to ask questions. A simple Hey, I was thinking about our trip to Cancun last year! I noticed there weren’t any pics of us together.
7) They are always tired after coming back from trips
While it’s possible they are just not sleeping well on airplanes and adjusting to time zones, it’s also likely that they have been staying up late and/or getting up early to have sexy Skype sessions with their affair partner. If you suspect your partner may be unfaithful to you while traveling because of lack of sleep, it could be an indication they are having an affair.
8) Cries for no reason or cries more than usual
Although we all have bad days when we cry for no reason at all, be wary if you’re crying more than usual. If so, try and figure out why – it might be that you’re disappointed or unhappy about something but are trying to hide those feelings from your partner because you don’t want to upset them or hurt their feelings.
9) Says I miss you, come see me as soon as possible frequently
If you’re not with your partner at that moment, it’s okay to show some understanding. But if those I miss you texts and emails come regularly throughout each day or there are too many messages about how much they miss you and can’t wait to see you soon, be careful—it could mean that someone else is on their mind. If you suspect something like that might be happening, wait for them to visit.
10) Argues over the smallest thing when talking on phone
Even if it’s late at night or you’re off work and on vacation, arguing over something small isn’t normal. If you feel like you have to convince someone to see things your way every time you talk to them on phone – they might not be as into you as they appear.
Logically it would seem that all long-distance relationships have to be doomed from the start. It’s just too hard to get together and there are too many temptations for either person involved. The most important thing to remember about any relationship—but especially a long-distance one—is that communication is key.
One of you could meet somebody else, but you don’t need to throw away what you have because of it. Are you annoyed by how often they’re making excuses not to see you? Don’t just accept their excuses at face value! Make them prove they mean what they say and when it comes down to it, compromise on how often you see each other until things pick up again.